Whether it’s after a break-up or before a big event, a best friend can comfort you like no one else.
It kind of goes without saying, but having a bestie is especially important for those in early recovery. Here’s a look at just a few reasons why:
To those in early sobriety, having fun without the presence of drugs and alcohol can seem impossible, and many feel the rest of their lives will be miserably boring. Learning to have sober fun, then, is an important element in recovery. In fact, current research shows individuals who report having no fun, or very little fun in recovery, are 11 percent more likely to relapse than those who have high levels of recovery fun.
Therefore, the best thing your BFF can do is show you that having fun as a sober individual is possible. Travel together, go shopping or pick up a hobby that interests both of you – all it takes is a change in perspective and an open mind!
Self Confidence Booster
When I got out of prison two years ago, I didn’t feel like a woman – much less a human being. My best friend from high school flew down from California shortly thereafter and pampered me to a spa day – facial, massage, mani/pedi – the works.
Though I didn’t realize it at the time, feeling good about myself and reclaiming my self-worth was essential in allowing me to move forward with my life. And without my best friend there to have shown me that, I may not be in the position I am in now.
Addicts are master manipulators who often deceive themselves and others, so it’s essential that someone be there to hold them accountable for their actions. The best thing BFF’s can do for one in recovery is voice their opinion when they see behaviors that aren’t conducive to long-term sobriety.
When I slip back into my old ways of thinking, my best friend is the first to call me out – and for that, I am grateful.
Talk it Out
Addictions are caused by suppressing your feelings, so opening up and getting it all out is crucial. Sharing your emotions can be therapeutic and having a best friend there for support lowers the odds of you turning to a way to numb them through drugs and alcohol.
If you can’t talk to your best friend about difficult feelings, who else can you talk to?
Additional Reading: Laughter: A Recovery Tool We Can’t Afford to Ignore
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