Forgiveness in Recovery

Forgiveness is a tough and touchy subject for many people, recovery or not. Throw in some forgiveness that has to do with addiction and you make the subject that much more difficult. People like to hold onto the past, they like to hold onto hurt, mistrust, and anger. Usually, because it’s how we’ve grown to be comfortable. Holding onto things we feel belong to us. But, just for a moment, think about what you would feel like if you finally set all those things down like they were each the big boulder, weighing you down, like they are.

Forgive Yourself First

No matter how much time has passed from the time you decided to get sober to know, you should know that it’s enough. Enough time has passed that you should feel OK in your efforts and feel like you can forgive yourself. In fact, you should do this first and foremost, as soon as you can work through whatever feelings may be holding you back. You’re important, you matter, you’ve made some mistakes or some choices that lead to some difficult consequences. That’s OK. Forgive yourself.

Forgive Others

Remember that amount of time we just talked about, whether it’s been a lot or just a little? That goes for other people too. We tend to hold onto things others have done to us, but the reality is that it weighs us down, not them. Let it go. Forgive others and drop the weight. It doesn’t mean you have to let them back into your life or even have any kind of relationship with them. It just means that for your heart and your mind, forgive others.

Forgive the Past

No matter where you’ve come from or where you’ve been, your past will always be your past. Don’t drag it into the future with you. Accept it and find a way to move forward. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself, your health, your relationships, and your future.

Reference
Andrews, K. “The Importance of Forgiveness in Recovery”. Alta Mira Recovery. (website). 2018
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